Body Image | Facing Fears

Friday, April 7

I was never 100% comfortable in my own skin. I've gotten a lot better as I've gotten older, but it has taken time, patience, self reflection, and love.
Sure, there are things I wish I could change, and I am working on eating better and drinking more water, but changing a body that has had twenty three years to mould will take time.

My self confidence is another one of those things that is taking some time to improve. When I was younger I never complimented myself or my figure. I always could pick things about myself that I thought needed changing. Even now, I am trying to work away at getting a slimmer tummy area.

We have these beauty standards that are all around us, and while I'm trying to work on loving myself regardless of beauty standard, it's a difficult road to walk.

I was recently inspired by Dia&Co, who are working on getting women to face their fashion fears. This is an issue that I really wanted to get involved with, as it not only impacts me daily, but many other women throughout the world.
Now Dia&Co are a subscription in the US for plus sized ladies. They have some beautiful stuff and I can't wait until they ship to Canada so that I can put an order in! They are trying to get women to have more confidence in things that they want to wear - to not be scared of a style or colour that others might think detracts from their inner beauty. I for one, am all for this movement! 

For this post I did something that I don't normally do - I went into a store and picked clothes to try on that I normally would never bring into a fitting room with me.

I picked things that I didn't think would suit my body type, or things I didn't think would look right on me. I tried each piece on, and snapped a dressing room photo. To top that off, I didn't edit the photos any for this post. There is something liberating about not worrying about fixing things in photos. 

For starters, here is what I walked in wearing - Dark jeans, top and cardigan: 


Then I tried on a cat print t-shirt. Normally I love cat print clothing items, but I find that I don't wear them unless I am at home, because usually the print is tacky. I picked this to try on specifically because I knew it was a tacky print. 

Next up to try on, a bright yellow blouse. Now the reason that I picked this shirt to try on was for the elastic band on the bottom of the shirt. I am in love with the colour, but usually tops with that elastic band on the bottom detract my attention, simply because they look odd on my stomach. I don't find they fit very well and are very unflattering. Regardless, I picked it up to try on, partially for the colour (which is one of my favourite colours) but also because I knew I would normally put this back on the rack. 



I've heard from many sources that horizontal stripes are not good for people with larger bodies. So naturally I picked up one to try on. I loved that the top was different. Normally I wouldn't even look twice at this item on a rack, but when I put it on I actually really liked it!


Ahh, Shorts. It has taken me a long time to come across a pair of shorts that I don't hate. These are not that pair. I don't own many shorts for a couple reasons: 1) I'm picky about their fit, length, and quality and 2) I just don't find them flattering on my body.
Nonetheless, I picked a pair to try on. I didn't like them, but at least I tried. 

They just make my behind look so odd and frumpy. It will be a glorious day when I find nice shorts. 


To keep up with the horizontal stripes, I picked up a tee fabric dress. I liked the colour, although I picked it because I felt like it would wash all the colour off of me. Once it was on, I also noticed that it was not flattering in my tummy area at all. However, I liked the colour, and it was very comfortable. 

Another of the same type of dress, with a little more flow. This was a piece that I really liked. White is another colour that makes me look paler than I already am (it is possible, somehow). 


I have always wanted a romper. I have yet to find one suitable for me, but I tried this one on anyway. I loved the bow in the front, but I always find that they fit my waist and leg area funny. I usually disregard rompers when looking through racks because I just assume they will all fit the exact same way. 


And finally, I tried on a piece that had a print that I did not like, and a style that I did not understand on the rack. It did not fit and made me very uncomfortable. I really liked the colours, which was why I picked it up. I was feeling bold and adventurous when I picked it up. Trying it on was an experience, but I will gladly say that I was not a fan of this choice. 


I came to the conclusion that sometimes it is hard to change your thinking, but it is possible. I went into the store thinking that this would be awful, and that I would be discouraged by trying on things that I already didn't think would work on my body, but in the end I actually enjoyed the process, and found some things that I really liked! 

I am a strong believer in doing what makes you happy, and I think that also extends to wearing what makes you happy. If you enjoy wearing high heels, then hats off to you - wear them with pride! If you like matching bright prints with black and white stripes, be my guest! Put things on your body that make you happy, because at the end of the day, it is your body no one else's. You've only got one, so try to be happy that you are able to wear things that you enjoy!



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